I feel very depressed could I suffer from postpartum depression?
Posted by: Alan in Postpartum Depression, tags: Could, Depressed, Depression, Feel, From, Postpartum, Suffer, Very
I am 38 1/2 weeks and been trying to induce labor but have had no luck I feel very depressed and cry for no reason I have not thought of hurting myself or anything like that I just feel miserable and feel sick all over and started to have low self esteam about 2 weeks ago I feel that my baby is never comming out I have been 100% effaced and 1cm dilated for 3 weeks know and with my two other pregnancies I went into labor at 36 and 38 weeks I have a close family member that passes away on 12/17 and not sure if this plays a role in it but I am affriad and don’t want to mention anything to my ob doc or to my husband who all ready sesnse something wrong with me I am lost and affriad will I feel this way after birth or is this normal to feel this way?
mandeejo thanks I feel a little better knowing that I am not the only one feeling this way I want to tell my husband but I feel that he has so much to deal with all ready see this is his 1st time and my 3rd time and he has been workin mad hours at his job and I don’t want to scare him with anything since it has been a very rough pregnacy
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June 1st, 2010 at 7:36 pm
I think you should talk to someone about this the way you are feeling is not good for the baby.
June 1st, 2010 at 8:13 pm
im currently 40 1/2 weeks. i went through the same depression a few days ago and cried a lot yesterday too. Im still only 1 cm and feel that im gonna be pregnant forever. ive been reading a lot about depression during pregnancy and its totally normal as long as youre not having feelings about hurting yourself. try to stick it out and know that there are a bunch of women out there feeling the same way. i actually felt better after talking to my boyfriend about it, so maybe you should talk to your hubby. Letting your feelings out to someone who will let you cry on his shoulder can make a world of difference.
Best of wishes.
June 1st, 2010 at 9:09 pm
No, you don’t have post-partum depression. Post partum means after birth, and that’s your problem right now — that you haven’t given birth. But in fact, it is very normal for you to feel this way right now. You have been carrying that baby for a long time, it’s getting large and heavy, and your body is tired. That is perfectly natural. Just imagine if you had a 15 pound weight strapped to your stomach for nine months. You’d really be tired of it. Especially if the weight thumped you every so often, disturbed your sleep, and interfered with almost everything you wanted to do. The 15 pound weight includes the weight of the placenta and your waters – I’m not suggesting you’re going to have a 15 pound baby (now that WOULD be depresssing!) just that you have been carrying between 15 and 20 pounds in total.
In any case, at this point in the pregnancy, your hormones are shifting into high gear, your body is getting ready to bear this child, and yes, almost anything is going to affect you emotionally. Esopecially the death of a close family member.
But please — don’t hesitate to mention this to your doctor and to your husband. They can help you, and they want to, but you have to let them know what’s happening.
Will you feel this way after birth? Probably not. There will be a sense of elation when you give birth, as you already know, and a sense of excitement about the baby. And of course, having a baby this close to Christmas is going to be extra exciting for you and for your other two children.
Take a deep breath, ask your husband to take you for a walk around the block to look at Christmas lights, then come home and relax. Before long, you’ll have a lovely little son or daughter to be happy about.
June 1st, 2010 at 9:37 pm
Some of what you are feeling is totally normal for the end of a pregnancy. I think we’ve all felt like it was never going to end. However, the rest of what you are saying tells me that you do seem to have some depression. I’m sure that losing a close family member plays a big part of it. You do need to say something to your doctor. I had Post Partum Depression after my second child. I’m still on medication and I just had my third child. Things are going well because I finally just talked to my OB. He suggested I see a therapist or a counselor. It was really great for me to talk to someone who was completely objective, would just listen when I needed to talk, and would give advice when I needed help. I can NOT stress it enough: talk to your doctor today. Having depression is just like any other disease, and if it goes untreated (whether or not you get put on any medication is irrelevent. Treatment can take many forms.) the problem can get worse.
June 1st, 2010 at 10:21 pm
You are feeling the hormones, it will not be much longer.
The day I went into Labor with my son, my mailman said “you havent had that baby yet?” and I burst into tears.
It is normal.
Does it happen every time? no. All pregnancies differ, as do the children they produce.
That level of hormones is a predictor, If I were a betting woman, I would say you will deliver quite soon.
NortonNobnick is a girl.
Good luck and congratulations, if your depression persists after birth, be sure and tell your doctor.
Im very sorry for your loss. As to this playing a part, sure psycologically you probably feel hampered in dealing with life so greatly pregnant, so you feel guilt.
Get over it, you have just one job now. Once that is done I bet the cloud will lift.
Tell your husband you are not crazy, but you probably have crazy hormones, and you feel overwhelmed. Ask for help coping. You will find a good response.
June 1st, 2010 at 10:45 pm
Postpartum depression occurs after the birth of your child. What you are experiencing is normal for late term pregnancy and usually disappears once the baby is born. However, with this having been a difficult pregnancy and your having to grieve the death of a family member at this time, probably makes it that much worse. You should definitely speak to your husband and doctor about this.
June 1st, 2010 at 11:01 pm
I think every woman that is that pregnant feels depressed. I sure did. Hope it gets better for you soon. It will… as soon as you go into labor. Good Luck!