How Do I Know For Sure My Bipolar Ex Gf Will Come Down From Her Manic Stage And Go To Depression?
Posted by: Alan in Manic Depression, tags: Bipolar, Come, Depression, Down, From, Know, Manic, Stage, Sure, Will
my ex gf and i dated for 3 years. she broke up with me a couple times, and hooked up with a couple of guys, then came back. same thing everytime. she broke up with me abou 4 months ago because she said she wanted to be “alone”. she hasn’t been “alone” the whole time. she hooked up with someone a week after we broke up. and 2 months after we broke up got a new boyfriend. they’ve been dating for about 2 months now.
everytime we break up, after a while she comes back to me. i don’t know if that will happen this time. the last big break up we had, we still talked a couple times a week and hung out a few times over the 5 months we were broken up. this time, she never talked to me unless it was to flip out on me. but recently she had come in contact with me although she still has a boyfriend. she asked me how i was doing and stuff. i don’t know what this means.
she has been diagnosed with bipolar and does not take meds. i just want to know how do i know she is really going manic during these stages and not just being a ****? How can i be sure that she will become depressed this time and want me back? how do i know its really bipolar? it sounds a lot like it.
how can i know that there will be a depressed stage because she has been manic for about 6 months now. last time it only lasted about 4. does it do different things everytime? is a depressed stage definetly going to come?
anyone with experience with bipolar or bipolar exs please help.
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February 28th, 2010 at 3:00 pm
i have a great idea!
First, think long and hard about why you really keep posting the same question, and the next time you ask let us all know why. I can speak for 80% of everyone who answers your questions that we are quite frankly getting tired of seeing them. you have gotten FANTASTIC answers, why dont you take someones advice? date her, dont date her, you just need to get help for your self. you obviously are SUPER OBSESSED for this slutty a$$ skank who is using you and manipulating you.
this girl is 18 years old. she wants to be young and date someone who isnt so clingy. think about it, do you want the same things you did 3 years ago? i dont. she obviously doesnt. i would hate to be with the guy i was with 3 years ago. people change, feelings change, its a part of growing up, and you both have a lot of that to do.
youve asked this over 140 times. in 5 months. no one can tell you whether or not she is becoming depressed. we dont know her. we dont see her actions or listen to how she speaks, we dont know. you can make it seem like shes depressed and act like she wants you but thats pure and simple delusion on your part. in the end of all this you will be the one hurt. i can promise that.
so next time you post this, add the reason why you keep posting it?
help us understand why you are obsessive..
February 28th, 2010 at 7:16 pm
OK I HAVE LOOKED AT ALL YOUR QUESTIONS AND YOU HAVE ASKED THE SAME QUESTIONS TOOO MANY TIME SI THINK YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WE GIVE YOU ANSWERS OVER AND OVER DO YOU GET THE POINT
February 28th, 2010 at 8:20 pm
Why date someone who only want’s you around when they’re depressed, when she is up again she’s just gonna bail right?
BE THE GUY this time who tells her
” I tried to be there for you, only to get walked on everytime you get manic, I deserve way better than what i put up with from you. Hit the bricks honey!!!!!!!!”
Hopefully she gets the message, and you can move on.
Sounds like you dig girls who need saving,
it’s called codependency I’d talk to a professional
March 1st, 2010 at 12:03 am
I have bipolar, and my mood swings are different every time. I’ve been in a manically happy swing for a few months now. I don’t know when I’ll come down, or if I will. It doesn’t always have a pattern. Usually, the swings are caused by something that triggers them, like a good or bad experience. And when she comes down, she might not necessarily get depressed. She might get anxious, and short tempered, or just relaxed and mellow. It’s different for every person.
Hope this helped.
March 1st, 2010 at 5:55 am
Just start a new life without her. You don’t need all this drama in your life. Might be a good idea for you to go to counseling. There is a reason you’re clinging to this relationship – likely insecurity of some sort – and you need to be able to move on. So learn to be happy by yourself for a while, get yourself straight, and then move on to greener pastures.
If you won’t go to counseling, at least read Safe People by one of the guys who wrote Boundaries: When to say yes, how to say no, to take control of your life (a great book). Safe People actually teaches you how to avoid poisoned people like your ex and how to find people who are emotionally stable. But you gotta be emotionally stable too, which is why I recommended counseling. People who are “safe” generally hang around with others who are “safe”, too.
An excerpt from the book:http://www.cloudtownsend.com/library/art…