Apr
30
2010
Would you date/be friends with/marry someone with manic depression (bipolar)?
Posted by: Alan in Manic Depression, tags: Bipolar, date/be, Depression, Friends, Manic, Someone, with/marry, Would
If not, why?
Wow, I am really shocked by some of these answers….













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April 30th, 2010 at 7:51 pm
Yeah.
April 30th, 2010 at 8:09 pm
Only if he was rich and hot.
April 30th, 2010 at 8:33 pm
No. Because I have seen to many sad things that bipolar people can do.
April 30th, 2010 at 9:02 pm
not really because I have dignity
I have way too much, so that someone can think they can talk to me the way they please
April 30th, 2010 at 9:35 pm
never again…marry i mean
April 30th, 2010 at 9:53 pm
Cheesis!!! only if they love cheese as much as I do !
April 30th, 2010 at 10:45 pm
sure y not? i luv speacial needs ppl!
April 30th, 2010 at 11:33 pm
NO. personally, i think people with this disorder are possessed by evil spirits, and evil spirits scare the crap out of me.
April 30th, 2010 at 11:59 pm
nah i dont think i can handle it b cuz im kind of bipolar
May 1st, 2010 at 12:32 am
you met my ex wife? I think that you dont have much control over who you fall for…and when you do fall for them they are what they are , shouldnt matter if they have an illness peace
May 1st, 2010 at 12:36 am
i already do
May 1st, 2010 at 12:39 am
Depends if they are interested in and serious about treating it.
Unfortunately, people that are bipolar usually drop their meds when they are feeling euphoric and then the rest just falls apart in their hands.
I don’t think I could handle being married to someone with severe psychiatric diagnoses. Friends, yes. Marriage, probably not. sorry.
May 1st, 2010 at 1:05 am
one of my close friends from high school was diagnosed with manic depression a few years after meeting her. It explained alot about her, but it was no reason to stop being friends. Sometimes its hard, but i dont think life is supposed to be easy.
May 1st, 2010 at 1:11 am
yes, my dad and his wife are bi-polar. if they are bi-polar, you should not take there reactions to the heart. dont get offended if they blow up out of no where. thats what ppl gotta do.
May 1st, 2010 at 1:56 am
i did
we have been happly married for 3 years
May 1st, 2010 at 2:50 am
No. Why enter into a relationship that is likely to have major problems??
May 1st, 2010 at 3:26 am
NO!! Not married!!
Why marry someone with a mental problem when there are plenty of normal people to pick from???
May 1st, 2010 at 4:00 am
i would be!! my sister is bipolar. and i love her to death
May 1st, 2010 at 4:32 am
It is hell. No way! What’s worse, it is hereditary so your kids might get it too.
May 1st, 2010 at 5:29 am
I used to be good friends with a guy like that, we hung out a few times, lost touch when he got a girlfriend. I hear he’s real into drugs now and I feel really bad, but I have no way of getting in contact with him, I honestly don’t know if I’d be able to do anything for him if I did, so I just pray for him. I do miss him though, he was a good guy.
May 1st, 2010 at 5:55 am
Of course…..some of the most artisitc people in the world were bipolar like Vincent Van Gogh, Axl rose, Cheri O’Terri
Kurt Kobian and Sylvia Plath
May 1st, 2010 at 5:55 am
as long as they took their meds
May 1st, 2010 at 6:11 am
Knowing how bipolarism affects those who leave it untreated or worse,try to medicate themselves(with booze/and/or pills)can be harrowing for all concerned,but,let’s talk about the upside.Being bipolar myself,I am in a loving relationship for which I’m greatful and if the shoe were on the other foot,I like to think that i would be as accepting of someone else’s disability or illness as those who truly care about me are of mine.
TL
May 1st, 2010 at 6:19 am
If i know she has that, I wouldn’t date her. If I date her, and find out later how she is, I would try to get her help. If she decides to accept the help, I would continue dating her. If she doesn’t want help, I would leave her. After some time, her negative behavior becomes a weight too heavy to drag in the relationship if she’s not helped.
May 1st, 2010 at 6:33 am
no. because I currently am in a relationship with this kind and without proper medicine (which corrects them) You end up trying to take on the roll of making them happy/normal or even just a bit more organized or easygoing. Meanwhile they range from agressive/abusive to inconsiderate and un focused
May 1st, 2010 at 7:25 am
I used to date someone with bipolar disorder. I used to love her very much and I have many special memories with her. I broke up with her though because I could not handle the relationship anymore. She is very beautiful and a lot of fun to be with, but that is not all of the time.
I know in my heart that it is not her fault that she struggles with her mental health, but just because it isn’t her fault doesn’t mean that what she says and does doesn’t affect me.
I do not really want to ruin the intimacy I had with that woman by going into too much detail, but it is enough to say that I will never marry someone with bipolar let alone date someone with it ever again. I can, however, have a friendship with someone that has it because friendship will never lead to a family or the responsibilities of really having to take care of that person.
I will get into some reasons though that I am sure are nearly universal with all people suffering from bipolar and why I don’t want a relationship with someone with it.
- worrying about if they will take their meds
- watching them not take their meds
- going to the mental hospital to see them because they lost it
- going through the ups and downs with the person even when you don’t suffer from bipolar yourself
- being with someone that has little to no accountability for their actions (afterall they are sick and it is not like they are purposefully trying to cause harm)
- getting in fights for no reason at all other than they suffer from a biochemical imbalance in their heads.
- seeing them in their most wonderful states and how on point they are when things are going well just to see everything fall apart.
- Realizing that the whole being wonderful and destructive comes in cycles that you or the person suffering from bipolar have little control over
- knowing that mental health issues have a strong genetic component and likely if you have children with this person your kids will probably have mental health issues themselves.
That does not mean that people suffering from bipolar cannot find someone to love them. There are a lot of people that like to be in relationships where they need to take care of another person. I on the other hand only want to take care of my children and want my significant other or spouse to be a full partner to help me take care of my kids. A person with bipolar acts basically like a child. I need someone a little more adult and fully functional.
May 1st, 2010 at 8:00 am
Depends on the person and on what I feel for the person.
Though this is something scary, it isn’t always like they show in the movies. Its just that bipolar people are more fragile, need handling with care. And the affliction isn’t always with the same seriousness in all people.
If I love the girl and think that I can easily give the amount of care and attention that the degree of severity of her affliction requires without endangering my sanity, I think I will date/marry her.
And there’s certainly no problem being friends with such a person, so that’s a yes in any case….. guy, girl or whatever
Stay Happy
Fra Diavlo (Brother Devil)
May 1st, 2010 at 8:39 am
i would definitely do any of those….cuz one of my best friends is pretty damn depressed and i enjoy making her feel better and reassuring her all the time